Guys + Marriage
Hi Folks, how was your weekend? thanks for your honesty, comments, RT’s and likes on my last article post “60 years time”.
Today’s post is gonna be like my regular posts,a few weeks ago, i did an article on Single ladies+Marriage, this is the guy’s version, and i will be telling you my own view and opinion, like i always say its okay if you agree or dont agree with me.
For us, as guys or should i say for me as a guy, i definitely wanna get married, i mean who doesn’t, well some people don’t want to but i do, i know a couple of guys who want to just have kids, live with them and their mums outside, they just don’t want woman-palaver.
In as much as i feel their pains, i still dont think its right for you to raise a kid in an environment where there isn’t mother figure or vice versa, i can understand some of us are from broken homes but should we put our own children through that stress again? No
I feel we can all agree on that one.
For me, my greatest fear in marriage is marrying the wrong person, shikena! i don’t care if am rich or not, marrying the wrong person will not only screw up your life but will also fuck up everything in its path which may include, your family, most of the things you cherish, its that ruthless. Someone once told me there is no marrying the right or wrong person, it’s all about making a decision and staying through to it.
Like all guys, i want a really beautiful woman, someone who melts my heart by just looking at her,someone who is nice, good with people and loves my family and let’s not forget interesting and maybe put spontaneous in that same mix, ethnicity…..ermmmmmm……i love igbo girls already, yoruba girls have my pass mark, body…….ermmmmmm….this is very tricky, in as much as i’m #teambigbooty and #teambigboobs, i dont want to marry a cossy orjiakor as a wife neither do i want to marry a woman whose ass increases her height when she sits down…i want more like a Caroline Ekanem Edem…:D , you know that girl right??????? smashing abi!!!!!!!!
One fatal flaw of you ladies is nagging….OMG, i haven’t seen a man who can stand nagging, and nagging comes in different categories and flavors, ladies please try not to in as much as its the only option you have.
This is my own wishlist of a wife, yours will be definitely different because our tastes are distinctive, one man’s awwwwww is another man’s ewwwwwww. (**stole that somewhere 🙂 **) For me, I believe most guys get married because they are bored….believe it or not…… For each and everyone of us, we all have targets and milestones we set for ourselves, if i achieve this, i will do this, if i achieve that, i will do that, its different for different folks. As guys we make a lot of mistakes, I know friends who marry because of pity, because they’re bored, because they impregnated that girl and many more excuses like that
I know some of us will always say if she isn’t pregnant for me, we can’t get married, I also share your pain. One of my friend’s believes in this philosophy due to the experiences he has had with the opposite sex, that pregnancy is a criteria for marriage, he feels he cannot begin to fast and pray about what the girl has done before marrying him, so impregnating her will be an evidence of her been fruitful, while i also have another friend whose philosophy is that if someone he really loves doesn’t get pregnant for him, he may never marry. Well that sounded like a playboy statement.
One thing women don’t get about single men and why they don’t want to marry is that we’re enjoying our single life unlike some ladies who can’t wait to be Mrs Somebody due to societal pressure or age. We will always be Mr. Somebody, either we’re married or not, Life as a single guy is always great, you can keep late nights, shagging as many girls as you like, be reckless, get drunk, generally do as it comes to you but the saddle of a married man is way more complex. it’s like being a Pastor, you got to be watchful of what you do and where you do it, guys love freedom, no more no less, freedom, ability to do something whenever, wherever.
As i said earlier on, marrying the wrong person could ruin your life, i have heard of cases where the husband leaves the house before 5am in the morning and gets home by 11pm, its not his work that takes his time, its just that he cannot afford to be home with his wife that long without loosing his mind, its terrible, and the worst part is that these people paint to the world the perfect couple.
If you know your guy has an hobby, support him, be interested in his hobbies, and in as much as you’re looking for an husband, the church isnt where you should look because its full of people who hide who they truly are. Until they’re married remember the case of the girl got killed by her husband , they hooked up in church o! Tread carefully, there are wolves in sheep’s clothing.
Getting married merges a lot of things, he/she may become better or become worse and if he’s doing something you don’t like and you feel when you get married he’ll change? Am sorry to burst your bubble, he wont, things might just get worse than it is.
I want to ask a question, whats the ideal age for a guy to get married and ideal age for a lady as well, from your own point of view.